The First Bank Kansas Board of Directors has announced the promotion of Jaden Miller to loan officer and Brett Cooper to network operations officer.

Miller was hired at First Bank Kansas as a lender in September 2020 and has been assisting customers from our 235 South Santa Fe location in Salina. 

Miller said, “I’m humbled to be recognized for my work with First Bank Kansas and look forward to continuing to support the dreams and goals of our customers.”

Cooper has been an essential member of the First Bank Kansas team since October 2015 when he was hired as an IT coordinator. 

“It is very humbling for me to receive this designation,” Cooper said. “I am passionate about helping people on a daily basis and working to keep our bank connected to the communities we serve.”

The First Bank Kansas Board of Directors has announced the promotion of Jaden Miller to loan officer and Brett Cooper to network operations officer.Miller was hired at First Bank Kansas as a lender in September 2020 and has been assisting customers from our 235 South Santa Fe location in Salina. Miller said, “I’m humbled to be recognized for my work with First Bank Kansas and look forward to continuing to support the dreams and goals of our customers.”Cooper has been an essential member of the First Bank Kansas team since October 2015 when he was hired as an IT coordinator. “It is very humbling for me to receive this designation,” Cooper said. “I am passionate about helping people on a daily basis and working to keep our bank connected to the communities we serve.”

First Bank Kansas announces staff promotions

Today is Monday, Feb. 14, the 45th day of 2022. There are 320 days left in the year. This is Valentine's Day. 

On Feb. 14, 2018, a gunman identified as a former student opened fire with a semi-automatic rifle at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School near Fort Lauderdale, Florida, killing 17 people in the nation's deadliest school shooting since the attack in Newtown, Connecticut, more than five years earlier. (Nikolas Cruz pleaded guilty to murder in October 2021; a jury will decide whether he is to be executed.) 

In 1876, inventors Alexander Graham Bell and Elisha Gray applied separately for patents related to the telephone. (The U.S. Supreme Court eventually ruled Bell the rightful inventor.)

In 1912, Arizona became the 48th state of the Union as President William Howard Taft signed a proclamation. 

In 1913, labor leader Jimmy Hoffa was born in Brazil, Indiana; college football coach Woody Hayes was born in Clifton, Ohio; sports broadcaster Mel Allen was born in Birmingham, Alabama. 

In 1924, the Computing-Tabulating-Recording Co. of New York was formally renamed International Business Machines Corp., or IBM. 

In 1929, the "St. Valentine's Day Massacre" took place in a Chicago garage as seven rivals of Al Capone's gang were gunned down. 

In 1945, during World War II, British and Canadian forces reached the Rhine River in Germany. 

In 1967, Aretha Franklin recorded her cover of Otis Redding's "Respect" at Atlantic Records in New York. 

In 1979, Adolph Dubs, the U.S. ambassador to Afghanistan, was kidnapped in Kabul by Muslim extremists and killed in a shootout between his abductors and police. 

In 1984, 6-year-old Stormie Jones became the world's first heart-liver transplant recipient when the surgery was performed at Children's Hospital of Pittsburgh (she lived until November 1990). 

In 1989, Iran's Ayatollah Khomeini called on Muslims to kill Salman Rushdie, author of "The Satanic Verses," a novel condemned as blasphemous. 

In 2013, double-amputee Olympic sprinter Oscar Pistorius shot and killed his girlfriend, Reeva Steenkamp, at his home in Pretoria, South Africa; he was later convicted of murder and is serving a 13-year prison term.

In 2020, after being stranded at sea for two weeks because five ports refused to allow their cruise ship to dock, passengers cheered as they left the MS Westerdam in Cambodia; the Holland America Line had said no cases of the coronavirus had been confirmed among passengers and crew. (An 83-year-old American woman who was on the ship and flew from Cambodia to Malaysia was later found to be carrying the virus.)

Ten years ago: A fire broke out at a farm prison in Honduras, killing 361 inmates. "Linsanity" continued as Knicks sensation Jeremy Lin made a tiebreaking 3-pointer with less than a second to play and New York rallied to beat the Raptors 90-87, extending a winning streak to six games. Malachy the Pekingese won best in show at the Westminster Kennel Club in New York.

Five years ago: A former store clerk, Pedro Hernandez, was convicted in New York of murder in one of the nation's most haunting missing-child cases, nearly 38 years after 6-year-old Etan Patz disappeared while on the way to a school bus stop. Authorities lifted an evacuation order for nearly 200,000 Northern California residents living below the Oroville Dam after declaring that the risk of catastrophic collapse of a damaged spillway had been significantly reduced.

One year ago: Japan formally approved its first COVID-19 vaccine and said it would start nationwide inoculations within days, but months behind the U.S. and many other countries. Vast numbers of people across Myanmar flouted orders against demonstrations to march again in protest against the military takeover that ousted the elected government of Aung San Suu Kyi.

Today's Birthdays: Actor Andrew Prine is 86. Former New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg is 80. Jazz musician Maceo Parker is 79. Journalist Carl Bernstein is 78. Former Sen. Judd Gregg, R-N.H., is 75. TV personality Pat O'Brien is 74. Magician Teller (Penn and Teller) is 74. Cajun singer-musician Michael Doucet (Beausoleil) is 71. Actor Ken Wahl is 65. Opera singer Renee Fleming is 63. Actor Meg Tilly is 62. Pro Football Hall of Famer Jim Kelly is 62. Singer-producer Dwayne Wiggins is 61. Actor Sakina Jaffrey is 60. Actor Enrico Colantoni is 59. Actor Zach Galligan is 58. Actor Valente Rodriguez is 58. Former tennis player Manuela Maleeva is 55. Actor Simon Pegg is 52. Rock musician Kevin Baldes (Lit) is 50. Rock singer Rob Thomas (Matchbox Twenty) is 50. Former NFL quarterback Drew Bledsoe is 50. Actor Danai Gurira is 44. Actor Matt Barr is 38. Actor Stephanie Leonidas is 38. Actor Jake Lacy is 36. Actor Tiffany Thornton is 36. Actor Brett Dier is 32. Actor Freddie Highmore is 30.

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 </figure>By THE ASSOCIATED PRESSToday is Monday, Feb. 14, the 45th day of 2022. There are 320 days left in the year. This is Valentine's Day. Today's Highlight in History: On Feb. 14, 2018, a gunman identified as a former student opened fire with a semi-automatic rifle at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School near Fort Lauderdale, Florida, killing 17 people in the nation's deadliest school shooting since the attack in Newtown, Connecticut, more than five years earlier. (Nikolas Cruz pleaded guilty to murder in October 2021; a jury will decide whether he is to be executed.) On this date: In 1876, inventors Alexander Graham Bell and Elisha Gray applied separately for patents related to the telephone. (The U.S. Supreme Court eventually ruled Bell the rightful inventor.)In 1912, Arizona became the 48th state of the Union as President William Howard Taft signed a proclamation. In 1913, labor leader Jimmy Hoffa was born in Brazil, Indiana; college football coach Woody Hayes was born in Clifton, Ohio; sports broadcaster Mel Allen was born in Birmingham, Alabama. In 1924, the Computing-Tabulating-Recording Co. of New York was formally renamed International Business Machines Corp., or IBM. In 1929, the "St. Valentine's Day Massacre" took place in a Chicago garage as seven rivals of Al Capone's gang were gunned down. In 1945, during World War II, British and Canadian forces reached the Rhine River in Germany. In 1967, Aretha Franklin recorded her cover of Otis Redding's "Respect" at Atlantic Records in New York. In 1979, Adolph Dubs, the U.S. ambassador to Afghanistan, was kidnapped in Kabul by Muslim extremists and killed in a shootout between his abductors and police. In 1984, 6-year-old Stormie Jones became the world's first heart-liver transplant recipient when the surgery was performed at Children's Hospital of Pittsburgh (she lived until November 1990). In 1989, Iran's Ayatollah Khomeini called on Muslims to kill Salman Rushdie, author of "The Satanic Verses," a novel condemned as blasphemous. In 2013, double-amputee Olympic sprinter Oscar Pistorius shot and killed his girlfriend, Reeva Steenkamp, at his home in Pretoria, South Africa; he was later convicted of murder and is serving a 13-year prison term.In 2020, after being stranded at sea for two weeks because five ports refused to allow their cruise ship to dock, passengers cheered as they left the MS Westerdam in Cambodia; the Holland America Line had said no cases of the coronavirus had been confirmed among passengers and crew. (An 83-year-old American woman who was on the ship and flew from Cambodia to Malaysia was later found to be carrying the virus.)Ten years ago: A fire broke out at a farm prison in Honduras, killing 361 inmates. "Linsanity" continued as Knicks sensation Jeremy Lin made a tiebreaking 3-pointer with less than a second to play and New York rallied to beat the Raptors 90-87, extending a winning streak to six games. Malachy the Pekingese won best in show at the Westminster Kennel Club in New York.Five years ago: A former store clerk, Pedro Hernandez, was convicted in New York of murder in one of the nation's most haunting missing-child cases, nearly 38 years after 6-year-old Etan Patz disappeared while on the way to a school bus stop. Authorities lifted an evacuation order for nearly 200,000 Northern California residents living below the Oroville Dam after declaring that the risk of catastrophic collapse of a damaged spillway had been significantly reduced. One year ago: Japan formally approved its first COVID-19 vaccine and said it would start nationwide inoculations within days, but months behind the U.S. and many other countries. Vast numbers of people across Myanmar flouted orders against demonstrations to march again in protest against the military takeover that ousted the elected government of Aung San Suu Kyi.Today's Birthdays: Actor Andrew Prine is 86. Former New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg is 80. Jazz musician Maceo Parker is 79. Journalist Carl Bernstein is 78. Former Sen. Judd Gregg, R-N.H., is 75. TV personality Pat O'Brien is 74. Magician Teller (Penn and Teller) is 74. Cajun singer-musician Michael Doucet (Beausoleil) is 71. Actor Ken Wahl is 65. Opera singer Renee Fleming is 63. Actor Meg Tilly is 62. Pro Football Hall of Famer Jim Kelly is 62. Singer-producer Dwayne Wiggins is 61. Actor Sakina Jaffrey is 60. Actor Enrico Colantoni is 59. Actor Zach Galligan is 58. Actor Valente Rodriguez is 58. Former tennis player Manuela Maleeva is 55. Actor Simon Pegg is 52. Rock musician Kevin Baldes (Lit) is 50. Rock singer Rob Thomas (Matchbox Twenty) is 50. Former NFL quarterback Drew Bledsoe is 50. Actor Danai Gurira is 44. Actor Matt Barr is 38. Actor Stephanie Leonidas is 38. Actor Jake Lacy is 36. Actor Tiffany Thornton is 36. Actor Brett Dier is 32. Actor Freddie Highmore is 30.

Today in History - Feb. 14

SALINE COUNTY—A Salina man was injured in an accident just after 8:30p.m. Sunday in Saline County.

The Kansas Highway Patrol reported a 2010 Kia Soul driven by Megan L. Ellison, 34, Salina, was westbound in the 300 block of West Schilling Road. The car struck a&nbsp;pedestrian identified as Garett A Heft, 46, Salina, who entered the roadway.

EMS transported&nbsp;Heft to Salina Regional Health Center. Ellison was not injured and properly restrained, according to the KHP.

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 </figure>SALINE COUNTY—A Salina man was injured in an accident just after 8:30p.m. Sunday in Saline County.The Kansas Highway Patrol reported a 2010 Kia Soul driven by Megan L. Ellison, 34, Salina, was westbound in the 300 block of West Schilling Road. The car struck a&nbsp;pedestrian identified as Garett A Heft, 46, Salina, who entered the roadway.EMS transported&nbsp;Heft to Salina Regional Health Center. Ellison was not injured and properly restrained, according to the KHP.

Salina man hospitalized after pedestrian accident

A local health and wellness coalition, Live Well Saline County, is doing a Community Food Survey to identify and develop solutions for the barriers to accessing food in Salina.&nbsp;

The information gathered in this survey will inform efforts&nbsp;to implement initiatives through&nbsp;Pathways to a Healthy Kansas, a Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Kansas grant initiative.&nbsp;Through the Pathways Initiative Saline County has the opportunity to apply for non-competitive implementation grants of up to $100,000 to support Safe Routes to Food projects. 

The results from the Saline County Food Survey will help identify the Safe Routes to Food projects that Live Well Saline County will apply for grant funding to implement.

The survey is available in print as well as online. The link to the online survey is&nbsp;<a href="https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/LiveWellSalineCounty" target="_blank">https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/LiveWellSalineCounty</a>.&nbsp;The survey will will close on March 12. The responses from this survey will be compiled with other responses and a one-page final report will be shared with the community.&nbsp;

Live Well Saline CountyA local health and wellness coalition, Live Well Saline County, is doing a Community Food Survey to identify and develop solutions for the barriers to accessing food in Salina.&nbsp;The information gathered in this survey will inform efforts&nbsp;to implement initiatives through&nbsp;Pathways to a Healthy Kansas, a Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Kansas grant initiative.&nbsp;Through the Pathways Initiative Saline County has the opportunity to apply for non-competitive implementation grants of up to $100,000 to support Safe Routes to Food projects. The results from the Saline County Food Survey will help identify the Safe Routes to Food projects that Live Well Saline County will apply for grant funding to implement.The survey is available in print as well as online. The link to the online survey is&nbsp;<a href="https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/LiveWellSalineCounty" target="_blank">https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/LiveWellSalineCounty</a>.&nbsp;The survey will will close on March 12. The responses from this survey will be compiled with other responses and a one-page final report will be shared with the community.&nbsp;

Live Well Saline County needs your help with food survey

HERINGTON - Home Health and Hospice of Dickinson County is offering a Bereavement Support Group in Herington. 

The next class will be on Tuesday at 6 p.m. These classes are held at the Home Health and Hospice office, 11 N. Broadway, Herington. Lindsey Brummer, Bereavement Coordinator, serves as the group facilitator. These gatherings are designed to help individuals work through the period of transition, allow time for sharing personal experiences and feelings, and provide guidance toward learning and coping skills. The public is welcome to attend the free sessions. Persons interested in the support group are encouraged to bring along a supportive person. Pre-registration is not required. Anyone with questions should contact Home Health and Hospice of Dickinson County at 785-263-6630.&nbsp;&nbsp;

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 </figure>Memorial Health SystemHERINGTON - Home Health and Hospice of Dickinson County is offering a Bereavement Support Group in Herington. The next class will be on Tuesday at 6 p.m. These classes are held at the Home Health and Hospice office, 11 N. Broadway, Herington. Lindsey Brummer, Bereavement Coordinator, serves as the group facilitator. These gatherings are designed to help individuals work through the period of transition, allow time for sharing personal experiences and feelings, and provide guidance toward learning and coping skills. The public is welcome to attend the free sessions. Persons interested in the support group are encouraged to bring along a supportive person. Pre-registration is not required. Anyone with questions should contact Home Health and Hospice of Dickinson County at 785-263-6630.&nbsp;&nbsp;

Bereavement Support Group to meet in Herington

LINCOLN, Neb. - Nebraska Wesleyan University announces its 2021 fall semester academic honors list for students enrolled in traditional and adult undergraduate programs. Traditional undergraduates:&nbsp;Students earning at least a 3.75 grade point average (on a 4.00 scale) while completing a full-time course load of at least 12 credit hours of graded work (pass/fail courses are not included) are eligible. Adult undergraduates:&nbsp;Undergraduate students earning at least a 3.75 grade point average while completing six or more hours of graded work (pass/fail courses are not included) are eligible.&nbsp;&nbsp;

Local and area students who earned academic honors include the following.

McPherson Megan Eisenbarth Salina Trace Leners&nbsp;&nbsp;

Nebraska Wesleyan UniversityLINCOLN, Neb. - Nebraska Wesleyan University announces its 2021 fall semester academic honors list for students enrolled in traditional and adult undergraduate programs. Traditional undergraduates:&nbsp;Students earning at least a 3.75 grade point average (on a 4.00 scale) while completing a full-time course load of at least 12 credit hours of graded work (pass/fail courses are not included) are eligible. Adult undergraduates:&nbsp;Undergraduate students earning at least a 3.75 grade point average while completing six or more hours of graded work (pass/fail courses are not included) are eligible.&nbsp;&nbsp;Local and area students who earned academic honors include the following.McPherson Megan Eisenbarth Salina Trace Leners&nbsp;&nbsp;

Local, area students earn academic honors at Nebraska Wesleyan

Proclamations, appointments, a replacement fire station, and land annexation are among the many items on the Salina City Commission agenda for Monday.&nbsp;

Study sessions and city commission meetings will take place in–person in room 107 of the City-County Building, 300 West Ash Street, and via Zoom until further notice. Meetings also can be viewed at the City of Salina YouTube channel,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/cityofSalinaKansas">https://www.youtube.com/cityofSalinaKansas</a>.

To participate via Zoom, citizens will need to use the following link:&nbsp;<a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89275984587">https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89275984587</a>.

The meeting also can be accessed by phone at 1-346-248-7799. Enter Meeting ID:892 7598 4587 when prompted.

If citizens wish to speak, either during the public forum or when the mayor requests public comment on an item, citizens attending via Zoom must raise their hands so that the meeting host can allow them to speak. Those who attend the in-person meeting will have the opportunity to speak at the podium.

Citizens also can send written comments or questions to city commissioners via email at&nbsp;<a href="mailto:citycommission@salina.org">citycommission@salina.org</a>.

In order for the commissioners to have an opportunity to review comments in advance of the meeting, please email your comments or questions by 5 p.m. the Sunday prior to the Monday meetings.

Commissioners are scheduled to begin with a study session about the Salina Grace Day Shelter at 2:30 p.m. Salina Grace is asking the city for financial support for its program to assist the homeless in Salina. To see the packet for the study session, <a href="http://weblink.salina.org/WebLink/DocView.aspx?id=486409&amp;dbid=0&amp;repo=Salina">click here</a>.

The regular meeting is scheduled to begin at 4 p.m. A time for public comment is scheduled near the beginning of the meeting.

Commissioners are being asked to approve the following two proclamation requests.

●Consider proclaiming the week of Feb. 20-26, 2022, as Engineers Week in the City of Salina. Kris Upson, president of the Smoky Valley Chapter of KSPE, is scheduled to read the proclamation.

●Consider proclaiming the month of February 2022 as Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month in the City of Salina. Angie White, parent/child advocate for DVACK, is scheduled to read the proclamation.

Commissioners also are scheduled to consider approving a number of citizen appointments to various city boards, including the following.

Board of Zoning Appeals Justin Owens until Feb. 14, 2025

Convention and Tourism Committee Mike Robben until Feb. 14, 2025

Law Enforcement Citizen Review Board Tina Baringer until Feb. 14, 2026

Planning Commission Chad Farber until Feb. 14, 2025

Salina Airport Authority Stephanie Klingzell Carlin until March 1, 2025

Salina Community Economic Development Organization Brian Richardson until Feb. 14, 2025

Solid Waste Management Committee Heidi Black until Feb. 14, 2025

Tree Advisory Board Brenna Riley until Feb. 14, 2026

Additionally, commissioners are scheduled to consider a resolution authorizing and providing for the design and construction of a new Fire Station No. 4 and authorizing the issuance of temporary notes and/or general obligation bonds to pay for the cost of the new station. It is proposed that the fire station be relocated to the southeast corner of the E. Crawford Street/Markley Road intersection.

Other items on the Salina City Commission agenda for Monday include the following.

●Consider approving on second reading a proposed ordinance that would amend the Salina Zoning Ordinance to establish regulations for short term RV parking at travel plazas, hotels, and motels and add short-term RV parking as a conditional use in the C-5 and C-7 zoning districts.

●Consider approving resolutions appointing members to the Salina Field House Qualified Active Low-Income Community Business, Inc., and the Salin Field House Leverage Lender, Inc., to the unexpired terms of former commissioners Melissa Rose Hodges and Rod Franz.

●Consider approving a resolution authorizing the purchase and installation of a prefabricated metal building in the General Services compound to house automated sanitation packer trucks.

●Consider approving an ordinance on second reading requesting the annexation of a 53.26-acre tract of land located east of Centennial Road between Schilling Road and Magnolia Road.

●Consider approving on second reading exempting certain property belonging to McShares, Inc., from taxation for the purpose of economic development. According to information in the city commission meeting packet from last week, McShares, Inc., doing business as REPCO, plans to expand its local headquarters and its warehouse and manufacturing facility located at 1835 E. North Street.

To view the full Salina City Commission meeting packet for Monday, <a href="http://weblink.salina.org/WebLink/Browse.aspx?id=486401&amp;dbid=0&amp;repo=Salina">click here</a>.

By SALINA POSTProclamations, appointments, a replacement fire station, and land annexation are among the many items on the Salina City Commission agenda for Monday.&nbsp;About the meetingStudy sessions and city commission meetings will take place in–person in room 107 of the City-County Building, 300 West Ash Street, and via Zoom until further notice. Meetings also can be viewed at the City of Salina YouTube channel,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/cityofSalinaKansas">https://www.youtube.com/cityofSalinaKansas</a>.To participate via Zoom, citizens will need to use the following link:&nbsp;<a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89275984587">https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89275984587</a>.The meeting also can be accessed by phone at 1-346-248-7799. Enter Meeting ID:892 7598 4587 when prompted.If citizens wish to speak, either during the public forum or when the mayor requests public comment on an item, citizens attending via Zoom must raise their hands so that the meeting host can allow them to speak. Those who attend the in-person meeting will have the opportunity to speak at the podium.Citizens also can send written comments or questions to city commissioners via email at&nbsp;<a href="mailto:citycommission@salina.org">citycommission@salina.org</a>.In order for the commissioners to have an opportunity to review comments in advance of the meeting, please email your comments or questions by 5 p.m. the Sunday prior to the Monday meetings.Study sessionCommissioners are scheduled to begin with a study session about the Salina Grace Day Shelter at 2:30 p.m. Salina Grace is asking the city for financial support for its program to assist the homeless in Salina. To see the packet for the study session, <a href="http://weblink.salina.org/WebLink/DocView.aspx?id=486409&amp;dbid=0&amp;repo=Salina">click here</a>.Regular meetingThe regular meeting is scheduled to begin at 4 p.m. A time for public comment is scheduled near the beginning of the meeting.Commissioners are being asked to approve the following two proclamation requests.●Consider proclaiming the week of Feb. 20-26, 2022, as Engineers Week in the City of Salina. Kris Upson, president of the Smoky Valley Chapter of KSPE, is scheduled to read the proclamation.●Consider proclaiming the month of February 2022 as Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month in the City of Salina. Angie White, parent/child advocate for DVACK, is scheduled to read the proclamation.Commissioners also are scheduled to consider approving a number of citizen appointments to various city boards, including the following.Board of Zoning Appeals Justin Owens until Feb. 14, 2025Convention and Tourism Committee Mike Robben until Feb. 14, 2025Jason Elliott until Feb. 14, 2025Law Enforcement Citizen Review Board Tina Baringer until Feb. 14, 2026Planning Commission Chad Farber until Feb. 14, 2025Salina Airport Authority Stephanie Klingzell Carlin until March 1, 2025Salina Community Economic Development Organization Brian Richardson until Feb. 14, 2025Tom Dill until Feb. 14, 2025Solid Waste Management Committee Heidi Black until Feb. 14, 2025Tree Advisory Board Brenna Riley until Feb. 14, 2026Additionally, commissioners are scheduled to consider a resolution authorizing and providing for the design and construction of a new Fire Station No. 4 and authorizing the issuance of temporary notes and/or general obligation bonds to pay for the cost of the new station. It is proposed that the fire station be relocated to the southeast corner of the E. Crawford Street/Markley Road intersection.Other items on the Salina City Commission agenda for Monday include the following.●Consider approving on second reading a proposed ordinance that would amend the Salina Zoning Ordinance to establish regulations for short term RV parking at travel plazas, hotels, and motels and add short-term RV parking as a conditional use in the C-5 and C-7 zoning districts.●Consider approving resolutions appointing members to the Salina Field House Qualified Active Low-Income Community Business, Inc., and the Salin Field House Leverage Lender, Inc., to the unexpired terms of former commissioners Melissa Rose Hodges and Rod Franz.●Consider approving a resolution authorizing the purchase and installation of a prefabricated metal building in the General Services compound to house automated sanitation packer trucks.●Consider approving an ordinance on second reading requesting the annexation of a 53.26-acre tract of land located east of Centennial Road between Schilling Road and Magnolia Road.●Consider approving on second reading exempting certain property belonging to McShares, Inc., from taxation for the purpose of economic development. According to information in the city commission meeting packet from last week, McShares, Inc., doing business as REPCO, plans to expand its local headquarters and its warehouse and manufacturing facility located at 1835 E. North Street.To view the full Salina City Commission meeting packet for Monday, <a href="http://weblink.salina.org/WebLink/Browse.aspx?id=486401&amp;dbid=0&amp;repo=Salina">click here</a>.

Appointments, fire station, annexation among City of Salina agenda items

Kansas Highway Patrol's Trooper Ben has a Super Bowl Sunday request. From the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/KHPTroopC">Kansas Highway Patrol Troop C Facebook page</a>:

Kansas Highway Patrol's Trooper Ben has a Super Bowl Sunday request. From the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/KHPTroopC">Kansas Highway Patrol Troop C Facebook page</a>:<div><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/video.php?height=317&href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FKHPTroopC%2Fvideos%2F4779374405494078%2F&show_text=true&width=560&t=0" width="560" height="432" style="border:none;overflow:hidden" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen="true" allow="autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowFullScreen="true"></iframe></div>

🎥Trooper Ben has Super Bowl Sunday requests for two groups 

With mild temperatures, dry conditions, and gusty southerly winds, very high to extreme grassland fire danger is possible across central, south-central, and southeast Kansas Tuesday afternoon.

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High to extreme fire danger possible in central KS Tuesday

HAYS – A total of 1,666 students earned places on the Dean’s Honor Roll at Fort Hays State University for&nbsp;the fall 2021 semester.

The Dean’s Honor Roll includes undergraduate students only. To be eligible, students must have completed 12 or more credit hours and earned a minimum grade-point average of 3.60 for the semester. Full-time on-campus and&nbsp;FHSU&nbsp;Online students are eligible.

Students are listed alphabetically by county and city, state and city, or country and city with their classifications – and, for those who have declared them, their program of study. This list does not include students who requested privacy.

Students without classifications are students seeking a second degree or are students who, though full time, are not seeking degrees.

Local and area students named to the FHSU Dean's Honor Roll include the following.

Clay Center (67432):&nbsp;Allyson Dye is a sophomore studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.

Clifton (66937):&nbsp;Ashton Kahrs is a junior studying Allied Health.

Morganville (67468):&nbsp;Reed Knitter is a senior studying Applied Business Studies.

Wakefield (67487):&nbsp;Kelly Flickinger is a freshman studying Nursing.

Keshia Williams is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Clyde (66938):&nbsp;Gavin Cyr is a senior studying Computer Science.

Laci Cyr is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Michael Cyr is a senior studying Agriculture.

Wyatt Cyr is a sophomore studying Health &amp; Human Performance.

Clay Girard is a senior studying Psychology.

Payton Girard is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.

Dillon Provost is a sophomore studying Health &amp; Human Performance.

Concordia (66901):&nbsp;Cydney Bergmann is a senior studying Agriculture.

Charity Brown is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Hailey Budke is a junior studying Management.

Grace Carder is a senior studying Art &amp; Design.

Matthew Davenport is a senior studying History.

Adria Girard is a junior studying Social Work.

Chloe Hibbs is a senior studying Art &amp; Design.

Yolinda Meyer is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.

Makaila Peltier is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Katelyn Trecek is a sophomore studying Allied Health.

Michaela Wetter is a junior studying Teacher Education.

Jamestown (66948):&nbsp;Jaelynn Sis is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Taylor Smith is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.

Miltonvale (67466):&nbsp;Sarah Collins is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Abilene (67410):&nbsp;Gavin Blehm is a senior studying Music &amp; Theatre.

Adreinne Danner is a senior studying Art &amp; Design.

Jennifer Dewitt is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.

Jailyn Leder is a freshman studying Teacher Education.

Jean Ottensmeier is a junior studying Teacher Education.

Robin Schlesener is a junior studying Teacher Education.

Edward Scott is a senior studying Applied Technology.

Monica Serrano is a senior studying Nursing.

Chapman (67431):&nbsp;Kody Kind is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.

Enterprise (67441):&nbsp;Astera Bailey is a senior studying Psychology.

Cassandra Quathamer is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Solomon (67480):&nbsp;Lexxi Espada is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.

Woodbine (67492):&nbsp;Mason Hinkle is a senior studying History.

Ellsworth (67439):&nbsp;Jaycee Cunningham is a sophomore studying Applied Business Studies.

Jenna Haase is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Braden Schulte is a freshman studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.

Kanopolis (67454):&nbsp;Kelsey Ashbaugh is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.

Wilson (67490):&nbsp;Aaron Dlabal is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.

Burr Oak (66936):&nbsp;Brady Jeffery is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Mankato (66956):&nbsp;Heather Garst is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Jenna Loomis is a sophomore studying Allied Health.

Lincoln (67455):&nbsp;Paige McBride is a sophomore studying Art &amp; Design.

Jaycee Vath is a sophomore studying Health &amp; Human Performance.

Macy Winters is a junior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.

Marissa Winters is a junior studying Allied Health.

Sylvan Grove (67481):&nbsp;Jonah Huehl is a freshman studying Agriculture.

Hillsboro (67063):&nbsp;Henry Hein is a freshman studying Biological Sciences.

Ellian Weisbeck is a sophomore studying Sociology.

Lehigh (67073):&nbsp;Jessica Saunders is a sophomore studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.

Ramona (67475):&nbsp;Ashden Alcorn is a sophomore studying Allied Health.

Canton (67428):&nbsp;Emma Ruddle is a junior studying Nursing.

Inman (67546):&nbsp;Macy Dewitt is a senior studying Communication Sciences &amp; Disorders.

Jaylah Hurley is a sophomore studying Allied Health.

Lindsborg (67456):&nbsp;Britton Haigh is a junior studying Political Science.

Blake Heble is a senior studying Health &amp; Human Performance.

Amenda Huse is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Kajsa Peterson is a freshman studying Biological Sciences.

Chloe Wolf is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.

McPherson (67460):&nbsp;Hailey Henson is a freshman studying Psychology.

Elizabeth Leck is a sophomore studying English.

Leah Parker is a senior studying Social Work.

Megan Saverino is a senior studying Nursing.

Moundridge (67107):&nbsp;Rebecca Buller is a senior studying Teacher Education.

Morgan Carter is a junior studying Teacher Education.

Ellen Durst is a senior studying Communication Sciences &amp; Disorders.

Ellika Ptacek is a senior studying Nursing.

Beloit (67420):&nbsp;Trista Boeve is a junior studying Allied Health.

Colin Chandler is a senior studying Biological Sciences.

Hudson Gray is a junior studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.

Haley Hilt is a freshman studying Health &amp; Human Performance.

Elyse Krier is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.

Luke Long is a junior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.

Garrett McBlair is a senior studying Criminal Justice.

Jessica Meier is a junior studying Nursing.

Hannah Schroeder is a sophomore studying Allied Health.

Autumn Sneath is a senior studying Biological Sciences.

Cawker City (67430):&nbsp;Mason Duskie is a junior studying Health &amp; Human Performance.

Anne Schlaefli is a junior studying Teacher Education.

Glen Elder (67446):&nbsp;Laney Clark is a junior studying Teacher Education.

Fort Hays State UniversityHAYS – A total of 1,666 students earned places on the Dean’s Honor Roll at Fort Hays State University for&nbsp;the fall 2021 semester.The Dean’s Honor Roll includes undergraduate students only. To be eligible, students must have completed 12 or more credit hours and earned a minimum grade-point average of 3.60 for the semester. Full-time on-campus and&nbsp;FHSU&nbsp;Online students are eligible.Students are listed alphabetically by county and city, state and city, or country and city with their classifications – and, for those who have declared them, their program of study. This list does not include students who requested privacy.Students without classifications are students seeking a second degree or are students who, though full time, are not seeking degrees.Local and area students named to the FHSU Dean's Honor Roll include the following.CLAY COUNTYClay Center (67432):&nbsp;Allyson Dye is a sophomore studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.Clifton (66937):&nbsp;Ashton Kahrs is a junior studying Allied Health.Morganville (67468):&nbsp;Reed Knitter is a senior studying Applied Business Studies.Wakefield (67487):&nbsp;Kelly Flickinger is a freshman studying Nursing.Keshia Williams is a senior studying Teacher Education.CLOUD COUNTYClyde (66938):&nbsp;Gavin Cyr is a senior studying Computer Science.Laci Cyr is a senior studying Teacher Education.Michael Cyr is a senior studying Agriculture.Wyatt Cyr is a sophomore studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Clay Girard is a senior studying Psychology.Payton Girard is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.Dillon Provost is a sophomore studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Concordia (66901):&nbsp;Cydney Bergmann is a senior studying Agriculture.Charity Brown is a senior studying Teacher Education.Hailey Budke is a junior studying Management.Grace Carder is a senior studying Art &amp; Design.Matthew Davenport is a senior studying History.Adria Girard is a junior studying Social Work.Chloe Hibbs is a senior studying Art &amp; Design.Yolinda Meyer is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.Makaila Peltier is a senior studying Teacher Education.Katelyn Trecek is a sophomore studying Allied Health.Michaela Wetter is a junior studying Teacher Education.Jamestown (66948):&nbsp;Jaelynn Sis is a senior studying Teacher Education.Taylor Smith is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.Miltonvale (67466):&nbsp;Sarah Collins is a senior studying Teacher Education.DICKINSON COUNTYAbilene (67410):&nbsp;Gavin Blehm is a senior studying Music &amp; Theatre.Adreinne Danner is a senior studying Art &amp; Design.Jennifer Dewitt is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.Jailyn Leder is a freshman studying Teacher Education.Jean Ottensmeier is a junior studying Teacher Education.Robin Schlesener is a junior studying Teacher Education.Edward Scott is a senior studying Applied Technology.Monica Serrano is a senior studying Nursing.Chapman (67431):&nbsp;Kody Kind is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.Enterprise (67441):&nbsp;Astera Bailey is a senior studying Psychology.Cassandra Quathamer is a senior studying Teacher Education.Solomon (67480):&nbsp;Lexxi Espada is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.Woodbine (67492):&nbsp;Mason Hinkle is a senior studying History.ELLSWORTH COUNTYEllsworth (67439):&nbsp;Jaycee Cunningham is a sophomore studying Applied Business Studies.Jenna Haase is a senior studying Teacher Education.Braden Schulte is a freshman studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.Kanopolis (67454):&nbsp;Kelsey Ashbaugh is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.Wilson (67490):&nbsp;Aaron Dlabal is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.JEWELL COUNTYBurr Oak (66936):&nbsp;Brady Jeffery is a senior studying Teacher Education.Mankato (66956):&nbsp;Heather Garst is a senior studying Teacher Education.Jenna Loomis is a sophomore studying Allied Health.LINCOLN COUNTYLincoln (67455):&nbsp;Paige McBride is a sophomore studying Art &amp; Design.Jaycee Vath is a sophomore studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Macy Winters is a junior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.Marissa Winters is a junior studying Allied Health.Sylvan Grove (67481):&nbsp;Jonah Huehl is a freshman studying Agriculture.MARION COUNTYHillsboro (67063):&nbsp;Henry Hein is a freshman studying Biological Sciences.Ellian Weisbeck is a sophomore studying Sociology.Lehigh (67073):&nbsp;Jessica Saunders is a sophomore studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.Ramona (67475):&nbsp;Ashden Alcorn is a sophomore studying Allied Health.McPHERSON COUNTYCanton (67428):&nbsp;Emma Ruddle is a junior studying Nursing.Inman (67546):&nbsp;Macy Dewitt is a senior studying Communication Sciences &amp; Disorders.Jaylah Hurley is a sophomore studying Allied Health.Lindsborg (67456):&nbsp;Britton Haigh is a junior studying Political Science.Blake Heble is a senior studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Amenda Huse is a senior studying Teacher Education.Kajsa Peterson is a freshman studying Biological Sciences.Chloe Wolf is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.McPherson (67460):&nbsp;Hailey Henson is a freshman studying Psychology.Elizabeth Leck is a sophomore studying English.Leah Parker is a senior studying Social Work.Megan Saverino is a senior studying Nursing.Moundridge (67107):&nbsp;Rebecca Buller is a senior studying Teacher Education.Morgan Carter is a junior studying Teacher Education.Ellen Durst is a senior studying Communication Sciences &amp; Disorders.Ellika Ptacek is a senior studying Nursing.MITCHELL COUNTYBeloit (67420):&nbsp;Trista Boeve is a junior studying Allied Health.Colin Chandler is a senior studying Biological Sciences.Hudson Gray is a junior studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.Haley Hilt is a freshman studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Elyse Krier is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.Luke Long is a junior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.Garrett McBlair is a senior studying Criminal Justice.Jessica Meier is a junior studying Nursing.Hannah Schroeder is a sophomore studying Allied Health.Autumn Sneath is a senior studying Biological Sciences.Cawker City (67430):&nbsp;Mason Duskie is a junior studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Anne Schlaefli is a junior studying Teacher Education.Glen Elder (67446):&nbsp;Laney Clark is a junior studying Teacher Education.Wyatt Eberle is a freshman studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Tipton (67485):&nbsp;Emily Koenigsman is a junior studying Agriculture.Anna Towner is a sophomore studying Teacher Education.OTTAWA COUNTYBennington (67422):&nbsp;Jasey Downing is a sophomore studying Art &amp; Design.Madalyn Matthews is a junior studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Chloe Stanley is a junior studying Teacher Education.Ryan Stanley is a senior studying Management.Delphos (67436):&nbsp;Spencer Davidson is a sophomore studying Applied Business Studies.Minneapolis (67467):&nbsp;Matthew Freel is a senior studying Applied Technology.Kaden McCullick is a junior studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Jaidyn McHenry is a senior studying Allied Health.Karisma Vignery is a senior studying Mathematics.Lukas Vogel is a senior studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Levi Ausherman is a senior studying Health &amp; Human Performance.Ottawa (66067):&nbsp;Kristin Rice is a senior studying Teacher Education.Monica Vrbas is a freshman studying Allied Health.Tescott (67484):&nbsp;Emma Adams is a freshman studying Agriculture.Danni Ehlers is a junior studying Nursing.REPUBLIC COUNTYCourtland (66939):&nbsp;Michael Flavin is a junior studying Informatics.SALINE COUNTYBrookville (67425):&nbsp;Erin Lange is a junior studying Teacher Education.Mentor (67416):&nbsp;Faith Pruett is a junior studying Modern Languages.New Cambria (67470):&nbsp;Jeanneatte Newton is a senior studying Nursing.Salina (67401):&nbsp;Aynsley Appelhanz is a senior studying Teacher Education.Kesa Augustine is a senior studying Teacher Education.Braydon Boyer is a senior studying Music &amp; Theatre.Gavin Brady is a sophomore studying Management.Drew Burgoon is a junior studying Political Science.Brianna Byerley is a junior studying Psychology.Karis Calahan is a senior studying Allied Health.Alison Dose is a senior studying Political Science.Kobe Douglas is a sophomore.Delaney Ellis is a senior studying Management.Jaqueline Garay is a senior studying Interdisciplinary Studies.MaLea Hill is a senior studying Psychology.Megan Householter is a freshman studying History.Madison Huffman is a senior studying Nursing.Emma Lidstrom is a senior studying Teacher Education.Minerva Martinez Rodriguez is a freshman studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.Kiara Montey is a sophomore studying Nursing.Ciara Moore is a sophomore studying Psychology.Sophie Nelson is a sophomore studying Allied Health.Alexxa Nunemaker is a sophomore studying Biological Sciences.Cierah Nunemaker is a senior studying Leadership Studies.Jordan Otto is a senior studying Management.Brooke Renshaw is a sophomore studying Economics, Finance &amp; Accounting.Genesis Resto-Torres is a junior studying Psychology.Karah Roach is a senior studying Nursing.Brylee Sader is a freshman studying Allied Health.Teghan Slagle is a freshman studying Applied Business Studies.Joslyn Smith is a sophomore studying Nursing.Cade Thomas is a sophomore studying Geosciences.Brittany Wheeler is a senior studying Art &amp; Design.Khendal Wimberly is a senior studying Art &amp; Design.Alissa Zajac is a senior studying History.Jaime Zajac is a senior studying History.

Fort Hays State University releases fall 2021 Dean’s Honor Roll

HERINGTON - A small earthquake shook part of Dickinson County early Sunday morning.

A 2.6 magnitude quake struck west of Herington at 1:26 a.m. Sunday, according to the Kansas Geological Survey. The earthquare was centered just west of Trail Road and just south of the intersection with 600 Avenue, near where a 2.5 magnitude quake struck early Saturday morning.

READ: <a href="https://salinapost.com/posts/dbf8a135-5099-4e4d-8149-c7a49e4dbcab">Small earthquake strikes west of Herington Saturday</a>

HERINGTON - A small earthquake shook part of Dickinson County early Sunday morning.<figure>
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 <figcaption>The 1:26 a.m. Sunday, 2.6 magnitude Dickinson County earthquake. Map courtesy Kansas Geological Survey</figcaption>
 </figure>A 2.6 magnitude quake struck west of Herington at 1:26 a.m. Sunday, according to the Kansas Geological Survey. The earthquare was centered just west of Trail Road and just south of the intersection with 600 Avenue, near where a 2.5 magnitude quake struck early Saturday morning.READ: <a href="https://salinapost.com/posts/dbf8a135-5099-4e4d-8149-c7a49e4dbcab">Small earthquake strikes west of Herington Saturday</a>

Another small quake strikes west of Herington

On my show, I often take calls from people in sexless marriages, people struggling with attraction after their partner’s weight gain, or people who don’t like who they are in their relationship. I talk to couples who are exhausted, frustrated, bored—and even people who are doing well, but they’re flinching, waiting for the other shoe to drop.

You see, most of us were only taught how to fall in love the first time—back when we had six-pack abs and endless energy. But relationships are all about falling in love with each other repeatedly over the course of a lifetime. We don’t know how to stay strong through decades of big transformations and small, daily transitions, which is where things usually start to break down. The key to remaining connected is this: Instead of staying stuck in the past, commit together to build something new.

Why? Because over time, everything in your relationship will change. Everything. Things won’t feel the way they used to. There’s no such thing as getting back to how things were. And using the past as a barometer for how your relationship should look is going to fail. You must intentionally embrace each new season of life. Think of yourself as an architect, not an archeologist.

So, if the key to keeping your relationship strong is to build something new, how does that work? I’m not a fan of three-step plans or life formulas, but in this case, it makes sense. If you want to strengthen your relationship and cocreate a future you love, here are three simple steps to start the process:

1. Acknowledge what is.&nbsp;You must step out of denial and confront reality. That means being vulnerable and saying things like, “I miss how we used to flirt,” or “I feel like your job has become more important than me.” If the thought of saying those things makes you feel sick, that’s normal. Being vulnerable requires risk, but it’s the only way forward.

I have two pieces of advice here. First, don’t try to have this conversation when you’re in a fight or when you’re angry. Confronting reality should never be an attack, and vulnerability should never be weaponized. Second, when someone is being vulnerable, you have to say, “Thank you for sharing.” No rebuttals. No excuses. No sulking. This is the time to listen quietly and let the other person speak—not to find a way to win the discussion. Remember: You’re on the same team.

2. Grieve what was.&nbsp;We often think grief is a big event—like the sudden loss of a loved one or job. But grief is so much more than a big event. Grief is the gap between what you expected or hoped would happen and what actually happened. It’s the heartache you feel when you miss how things were. It’s the fear you feel about beginning the next chapter.

Some grief is bigger than others. But if you want your relationships to survive the thousands of changes life will throw at you, you must grieve what was—even if the new things aren’t bad. Maybe you loved going to concerts together, but now you’re in bed by nine every night. Maybe you never thought they’d develop a chronic illness, but it happened, and it’s devastating. Grieving isn’t going to be fun, but it’s necessary to honor what was. You have to choose to set it down so you can pick up what’s next together.

3. Own what happens next.&nbsp;Now that you’ve both said, “Here’s what I miss,” and “Here’s what I thought was going to happen and didn’t,” you get to say, “Here’s what happens next!” You can’t edit the stories of the past, but you can write new ones.

Maybe you can’t go to late night concerts anymore, but you love going on hikes with your family. Or no, he can’t help around the house the way he did before the illness, but you’re learning new ways to serve one another.” Whatever it looks like, take heart: This is when you regain your power and your strength.

Be patient with one another in this process.&nbsp;No one told you when you got married that it was the just the first of a hundred phases of building something new. Yes, it’s hard, but every minute of the work it takes to&nbsp;embrace change and build a strong relationship is worth it.

John Delony&nbsp;is a mental health expert with&nbsp;PhDs in counselor education &amp; supervision and higher education administration&nbsp;from Texas Tech University. Prior to joining Ramsey Solutions in 2020, John worked as a senior leader, professor, and researcher at multiple universities. He also spent two decades in crisis response, walking with people through severe trauma. Now as a Ramsey Personality, he teaches on relationships and emotional wellness. Follow John on&nbsp;<a href="https://twitter.com/johndelony" target="_blank">Twitter</a>,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/johndelony/" target="_blank">Instagram</a>,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/JohnDelony/" target="_blank">Facebook</a>and&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/johndelony" target="_blank">YouTube</a>or online at&nbsp;<a href="http://www.johndelony.com/" target="_blank">www.johndelony.com</a>.

<figure>
 <img src="https://media.eaglewebservices.com/public/2021/4/1618625696051.jpeg" alt="John Delony" />
 <figcaption>John Delony</figcaption>
 </figure>By JOHN DELONYOn my show, I often take calls from people in sexless marriages, people struggling with attraction after their partner’s weight gain, or people who don’t like who they are in their relationship. I talk to couples who are exhausted, frustrated, bored—and even people who are doing well, but they’re flinching, waiting for the other shoe to drop.You see, most of us were only taught how to fall in love the first time—back when we had six-pack abs and endless energy. But relationships are all about falling in love with each other repeatedly over the course of a lifetime. We don’t know how to stay strong through decades of big transformations and small, daily transitions, which is where things usually start to break down. The key to remaining connected is this: Instead of staying stuck in the past, commit together to build something new.Why? Because over time, everything in your relationship will change. Everything. Things won’t feel the way they used to. There’s no such thing as getting back to how things were. And using the past as a barometer for how your relationship should look is going to fail. You must intentionally embrace each new season of life. Think of yourself as an architect, not an archeologist.So, if the key to keeping your relationship strong is to build something new, how does that work? I’m not a fan of three-step plans or life formulas, but in this case, it makes sense. If you want to strengthen your relationship and cocreate a future you love, here are three simple steps to start the process:1. Acknowledge what is.&nbsp;You must step out of denial and confront reality. That means being vulnerable and saying things like, “I miss how we used to flirt,” or “I feel like your job has become more important than me.” If the thought of saying those things makes you feel sick, that’s normal. Being vulnerable requires risk, but it’s the only way forward.I have two pieces of advice here. First, don’t try to have this conversation when you’re in a fight or when you’re angry. Confronting reality should never be an attack, and vulnerability should never be weaponized. Second, when someone is being vulnerable, you have to say, “Thank you for sharing.” No rebuttals. No excuses. No sulking. This is the time to listen quietly and let the other person speak—not to find a way to win the discussion. Remember: You’re on the same team.2. Grieve what was.&nbsp;We often think grief is a big event—like the sudden loss of a loved one or job. But grief is so much more than a big event. Grief is the gap between what you expected or hoped would happen and what actually happened. It’s the heartache you feel when you miss how things were. It’s the fear you feel about beginning the next chapter.Some grief is bigger than others. But if you want your relationships to survive the thousands of changes life will throw at you, you must grieve what was—even if the new things aren’t bad. Maybe you loved going to concerts together, but now you’re in bed by nine every night. Maybe you never thought they’d develop a chronic illness, but it happened, and it’s devastating. Grieving isn’t going to be fun, but it’s necessary to honor what was. You have to choose to set it down so you can pick up what’s next together.3. Own what happens next.&nbsp;Now that you’ve both said, “Here’s what I miss,” and “Here’s what I thought was going to happen and didn’t,” you get to say, “Here’s what happens next!” You can’t edit the stories of the past, but you can write new ones.Maybe you can’t go to late night concerts anymore, but you love going on hikes with your family. Or no, he can’t help around the house the way he did before the illness, but you’re learning new ways to serve one another.” Whatever it looks like, take heart: This is when you regain your power and your strength.Be patient with one another in this process.&nbsp;No one told you when you got married that it was the just the first of a hundred phases of building something new. Yes, it’s hard, but every minute of the work it takes to&nbsp;embrace change and build a strong relationship is worth it.John Delony&nbsp;is a mental health expert with&nbsp;PhDs in counselor education &amp; supervision and higher education administration&nbsp;from Texas Tech University. Prior to joining Ramsey Solutions in 2020, John worked as a senior leader, professor, and researcher at multiple universities. He also spent two decades in crisis response, walking with people through severe trauma. Now as a Ramsey Personality, he teaches on relationships and emotional wellness. Follow John on&nbsp;<a href="https://twitter.com/johndelony" target="_blank">Twitter</a>,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/johndelony/" target="_blank">Instagram</a>,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/JohnDelony/" target="_blank">Facebook</a>and&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/johndelony" target="_blank">YouTube</a>or online at&nbsp;<a href="http://www.johndelony.com/" target="_blank">www.johndelony.com</a>.

DELONY: Why strong relationships build something new

Today is Sunday, Feb. 13, the 44th day of 2022. There are 321 days left in the year. 

On Feb. 13, 1935, a jury in Flemington, New Jersey, found Bruno Richard Hauptmann guilty of first-degree murder in the kidnap-slaying of Charles A. Lindbergh Jr., the 20-month-old son of Charles and Anne Lindbergh. (Hauptmann was later executed.)

In 1633, Italian astronomer Galileo Galilei arrived in Rome for trial before the Inquisition, accused of defending Copernican theory that the Earth revolved around the sun instead of the other way around. (Galileo was found vehemently suspect of heresy and ended up being sentenced to a form of house arrest.) 

In 1933, the Warsaw Convention, governing airlines' liability for international carriage of persons, luggage and goods, went into effect.

In 1939, Justice Louis D. Brandeis retired from the U.S. Supreme Court. (He was succeeded by William O. Douglas.) 

In 1965, during the Vietnam War, President Lyndon B. Johnson authorized Operation Rolling Thunder, an extended bombing campaign against the North Vietnamese. 

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 </figure>By THE ASSOCIATED PRESSToday is Sunday, Feb. 13, the 44th day of 2022. There are 321 days left in the year. Today's Highlight in History: On Feb. 13, 1935, a jury in Flemington, New Jersey, found Bruno Richard Hauptmann guilty of first-degree murder in the kidnap-slaying of Charles A. Lindbergh Jr., the 20-month-old son of Charles and Anne Lindbergh. (Hauptmann was later executed.)On this date: In 1633, Italian astronomer Galileo Galilei arrived in Rome for trial before the Inquisition, accused of defending Copernican theory that the Earth revolved around the sun instead of the other way around. (Galileo was found vehemently suspect of heresy and ended up being sentenced to a form of house arrest.) In 1933, the Warsaw Convention, governing airlines' liability for international carriage of persons, luggage and goods, went into effect.In 1939, Justice Louis D. Brandeis retired from the U.S. Supreme Court. (He was succeeded by William O. Douglas.) In 1965, during the Vietnam War, President Lyndon B. Johnson authorized Operation Rolling Thunder, an extended bombing campaign against the North Vietnamese. In 1980, the 13th Winter Olympics opened in Lake Placid, New York.In 1991, during Operation Desert Storm, allied warplanes destroyed an underground shelter in Baghdad that had been identified as a military command center; Iraqi officials said 500 civilians were killed. In 1996, the rock musical "Rent," by Jonathan Larson, opened off-Broadway less than three weeks after Larson's death.In 2000, Charles Schulz's final "Peanuts" strip ran in Sunday newspapers, the day after the cartoonist died in his sleep at his California home at age 77. In 2002, John Walker Lindh pleaded not guilty in federal court in Alexandria, Virginia, to conspiring to kill Americans and supporting the Taliban and terrorist organizations. (Lindh later pleaded guilty to lesser offenses and was sentenced to 20 years in prison. He was released in September 2019 after serving 17 years of that sentence.) In 2011, Egypt's military leaders dissolved parliament, suspended the constitution and promised elections in moves cautiously welcomed by protesters who'd helped topple President Hosni Mubarak. In 2013, beginning a long farewell to his flock, a weary Pope Benedict XVI celebrated his final public Mass as pontiff, presiding over Ash Wednesday services inside St. Peter's Basilica at the Vatican. In 2016, Justice Antonin Scalia, the influential conservative and most provocative member of the U.S. Supreme Court, was found dead at a private residence in the Big Bend area of West Texas; he was 79. Ten years ago: President Barack Obama unveiled a record $3.8 trillion election-year budget plan, calling for stimulus-style spending on roads and schools and tax hikes on the wealthy to help pay the costs. Washington Gov. Christine Gregoire signed a measure making her state the seventh to legalize same-sex marriage.Five years ago: President Donald Trump's embattled national security adviser, Michael Flynn, resigned following reports he had misled Vice President Mike Pence and other officials about his contacts with Russia. Kim Jong Nam, the estranged half-brother of North Korean leader Kim Jong Un, died after two women smeared a nerve agent on his face an airport terminal in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. (Murder charges against the women were eventually dropped, and they returned home to Vietnam and Indonesia; four North Koreans who fled Malaysia on the day after the killing were named as co-conspirators.) One year ago: Former President Donald Trump was acquitted by the Senate at his second impeachment trial, the first to involve a former president, in which he was accused of inciting the attack on the U.S. Capitol on Jan. 6; seven Republicans joined all 50 Democrats in voting to convict, but it was far from the two-thirds threshold required. Although he voted "not guilty," Senate Republican leader Mitch McConnell delivered a scalding denunciation of Trump in a speech from the Senate floor, calling the former president "morally responsible" for the attack on the Capitol.Today's Birthdays: Actor Kim Novak is 89. Actor Bo Svenson is 81. Actor Stockard Channing is 78. Talk show host Jerry Springer is 78. Sen. Richard Blumenthal, D-Conn., is 76. Singer Peter Gabriel is 72. Actor David Naughton is 71. Rock musician Peter Hook is 66. Actor Matt Salinger is 62. Singer Henry Rollins is 61. Actor Neal McDonough is 56. Singer Freedom Williams is 56. Actor Kelly Hu is 54. Rock singer Matt Berninger (The National) is 51. Country musician Scott Thomas (Parmalee) is 49. Singer Robbie Williams is 48. Singer-songwriter Feist is 46. R&amp;B performer Natalie Stewart is 43. Actor Mena Suvari is 43. Actor Katie Volding is 33. Michael Joseph Jackson Jr. (also known as Prince Michael Jackson I) is 25.